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lastoneout:

vaspider:
renniequeer:
wodneswynn:
The fact that so many queer spaces are devoted to drinking is, like, a huge problem
And the last time this topic got brought up in any sort of major way, somehow it got turned into “ace people are being bigoted about gay bars.”
The fact that our traditional community spaces are all alcohol-oriented, further enabling alcohol companies to prey on us, is a massive fucking problem.
Queer bars are important, but they shouldn’t be the only spaces available to us.
I can’t fucking drink bc medication and I always feel tired and out of place in bars.
I know I just reblogged this but I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, there are SO many queer people who are alienated by bars being the main queer community spaces including:
Recovering Alcoholics
People under the age of 21
People who cannot drink due to medications
People who are made uncomfortable by alcohol like those who have a family history of alcoholism
People who just don’t drink
People who have sensory issues and cant deal with the dark, loud noises, crowds, and strong smells that are common in bars
People who are prone to migraines
Disabled people who have trouble getting into bars due to most of them not being accessible in a way that matters (Most bars I’ve been to are only accessible by stairs or are too small/crowded to fit a mobility aid into or have tiny bathrooms)
People who just cannot afford to go to a bar
People who work mornings and can’t stay out late
And yes, ace and aro people who are extremely uncomfortable being in a space where being hit on is not only common but expected (or other queer people in the same boat, I know being hit on by anyone makes me feel uncomfortable and it’s not cuz I’m ace)
There are SO many reasons that bars, while important to queer history, just do not cut it as the only available queer spaces anymore. I know y'all love to laugh at those of us who talk about queer cafes and queer bookstores cuz lol cringe but most of my queer friends and myself are seriously lacking ANY community because we fit into one or more of the above categories. I mean hell Tucson Pride this year was hardly accessible at ALL to me because I needed my walker and it was hosted outside on a fucking grassy hill with no sidewalks and I ended up having to leave early cuz pushing my walker around was hurting more than helping. We need more accessible queer spaces badly and I will not shut up about it.