oleathe: ilikesallydonovan: mayhemsbian: the...

oleathe:

ilikesallydonovan:
mayhemsbian:
the thing is that safety is a basic thing to provide, even to people you intensely dislike. I think you guys have got to realize that.
there is a trans girl at my school and i really do dislike her, like she is an absolute prick a lot of the time and her opinions are shit. when she asks me to walk her to the bathroom i do so. when she asks if i can walk her home at night because she’s afraid, i fucking do it. when she asks me to guard the door while she changes clothes so her parents don’t see her, i do it, and when she asks me to talk to a transphobic teacher because she’s afraid to, i do it for her. Yes, all while disliking her as a person. and people call me “fake” for doing this?

It’s basic fucking safety that she should feel entitled to. if you saw someone you didn’t like in an unsafe situation, you probably would still do something about it. don’t take advantage of someone’s status as a minority because you dislike them, it’s so shitty, and whether you realize it or not, you ARE doing it when you refuse to help a trans person stay safe because you don’t like them. it’s unfair, it’s cheap, it’s petty, it’s disgusting, it’s always, always wrong.
One of the things you have to learn to adult reasonably successfully is to work with people you don’t like, based on basic decency (as long as they’re not obviously out to harm you - you may have to learn to do that too, but it involves different tactics than basic decency). You especially have to learn how to work with people you don’t like when you’re the one who’s in a position of power in some way or other. What you don’t have to learn is to like people you don’t like, because it’s normal to randomly dislike people. And all that includes keeping people safe that you don’t like - be it from physical threats or from bullying.
This is a post everyone needs to see for different reasons but especially white people, this is something that needs to be taught by parents to their children and in schools because this is something many people do not understand
When you’re in public and a black man is making you uncomfortable you don’t call the police on him because he’s making you uncomfortable by his presence.
When he gets beaten, shot or killed and you say “I didn’t want that to happen” sure you didn’t but what you don’t realize is safety is a luxury that we must all provide for each other. We created safety, it doesn’t exist in most other places, we are all entitled to it but we have also all been made comfortable of it so much that we forget it’s there. And some don’t realize they are taking it away by failing to treat other human beings as human just because you don’t like them or they make you uncomfortable or point out your mistakes or disagree with you on and on.

(Source: anarkiddo)