thesnadger: thesnadger: I wish the takeaway from...

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thesnadger:
I wish the takeaway from “bean dad” was not “this one specific guy is a bad person,” but that the very, very common “they’ll do it when they’re hungry/tired/bored enough” attitude towards children isn’t a good one.
If you can understand that this isn’t a good way to teach a child to use a can opener, consider that maybe the kid who’s been told they can’t move from the table until they finish their homework, who’s been visibly struggling to focus for hours and crying out of frustration isn’t just being stubborn?
I don’t especially care if this guy is run off twitter, it just rubs me the wrong way that there’s an obvious desire to say “this guy is the worst parent in the world” instead of “this is an attitude that a lot of normal and entirely well-meaning parents have, and it can be harmful to children.”

(via gaaraofsburbia)

i dont think people are right to call him a terrible parent? hes definitely a huge asshole. and thats NOT the way to teach a kid how to do smthn At All... but i feel like getting up in arms abt isnt rlly the right thing to do idk. maybe I'm just bad? for not thinking he's a terrible parent? unfortunately he's just one of those people who thinks a kid should just Magically be able to figure out something bc SURELY it's so SIMPLE to ''me'' the ADULT CLEARLY my child is deliberately REFUSING to learn to do this SIMPLE THING out of SPITE very shitty. not excusable. but not like an offense punishable by ostracization imo :T